Toni Nieuwhof

If a healthy relationship includes playfulness (and you’re like me…), how can you get it back?

If a healthy relationship includes playfulness (and you’re like me…), how can you get it back? Are you missing the sweet touch of play in your relationship? Perhaps your playfulness is like mine:  you’ll slip into the mood here and there, but most often you’re all too serious. Before the pandemic hit, our lifestyle was …

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Ask yourself these two questions if frustration has replaced emotional intimacy in your marriage

Ask yourself these two questions if frustration has replaced emotional intimacy in your marriage “Whatever I do, it’s never enough!” Maybe you can relate to this.  You’ve had a few issues in your marriage you can’t crack the code on.  She asks you to not be so messy, and you’ve responded.  Made some changes.  But …

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Why Waiting for Your Spouse to Make the First Move Could Be a Mistake

Why Waiting for Your Spouse to Make the First Move Could Be a Mistake   Emma’s marriage was suffering to the point where she was losing hope.  Even though she and her husband Kyle agreed that their future was at risk, they disagreed bitterly over what would make it better.  So, when Emma decided to …

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4 Critical Questions to Ask When You and Your Spouse Feel Like Roommates

4 Critical Questions to Ask When You and Your Spouse Feel Like Roommates You’re feeling half- numb as you walk into the kitchen after your night shift.  An unexpected emergency on your ward in the hospital and the adrenaline rush that went with it now subsiding, your body could melt onto the floor on the …

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Build a Stronger Connection by Being Emotionally Safe for Your Spouse

Build a Stronger Connection by Being Emotionally Safe for Your Spouse Feeling frustrated with your spouse?  Basically, you want your marriage to work out.  But you’ve tried things to make it better, and now – well, maybe you’re more cynical than you’d like to admit. One of the problems? You just seem to keep tripping …

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Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”: Your Finances

Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”:  Your Finances Do you wish you had more peace around money in your marriage? If so, maybe you’ll see something of yourselves in these scenarios… You seem to always be at odds with each other over your budget. ‘Going there’ always ends with an argument. One of you loves …

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When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low

When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low   How much of your personal story should you share in public or on social media? It’s a great question and a tough one. Some people wear their hearts on their sleeves, while others are stoic and rarely ever share what’s going on inside.  But, both …

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