Toni Nieuwhof

How to move from cold to hot in your marriage through forgiveness

How to move from cold to hot in your marriage through forgiveness   I wonder how you would describe the climate in your marriage these days.  Stormy. Maybe your argument a few days ago blows into today, and even if you manage to shutter it out now, it’s only a matter of time until it …

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Build a stronger connection by being emotionally safe for your spouse

Build a stronger connection by being emotionally safe for your spouse Feeling frustrated with your spouse?  Basically, you want your marriage to work out.  But you’ve tried things to make it better, and now – well, maybe you’re more cynical than you’d like to admit. One of the problems? You just seem to keep tripping …

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Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”: Your Finances

Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”:  Your Finances Do you wish you had more peace around money in your marriage? If so, maybe you’ll see something of yourselves in these scenarios… You seem to always be at odds with each other over your budget. ‘Going there’ always ends with an argument. One of you loves …

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When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low

When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low   How much of your personal story should you share in public or on social media? It’s a great question and a tough one. Some people wear their hearts on their sleeves, while others are stoic and rarely ever share what’s going on inside.  But, both …

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Finding Your Way Out of Feeling Stuck in Your Marriage – Part 2

Finding Your Way Out Of Feeling Stuck In Your Marriage – Part 2   If you’re unhappily married right now, you may be wondering – should I stay or should I go? If you’re like I was, you may be feeling stuck because neither option seems to fit with what you really want. I’m writing …

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Finding Your Way Out of Feeling Stuck in Your Marriage – Part 1

Finding Your Way Out of Feeling Stuck in Your Marriage – Part 1 I’ve walked with people who were going through the agonizing search for their next steps while leaving their marriage, in my practice as a divorce attorney.  While I was able to give people direction about their legal steps, all I could do …

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How Can You Be Happy in Your Relationship Despite Differing Expectations?

How Can You Be Happy in Your Relationship Despite Differing Expectations?  If you’re anything like my husband Carey and I, whatever it is that reveals the clashes in your expectations will catch you off-guard.  Like the time Carey casually mentioned to me, in the middle of a social gathering, that he was signing our son …

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