Regaining Self-Control When Stress Leaks Out I’ve had people ask me, “How can I stop yelling at and nagging my husband and kids?” If your frustration level is high and you’re trying to contain it rather than share it, your effort at self-control will only last so long. Sooner or later, those emotions you’re …
How to spot joy-stealing pessimism in your marriage and what to do when you find it Black and white, no grading on a scale, answer this question: are you a pessimist? Optimist or pessimist? Set aside any impulses you give the answer you would rather be or aspire to be. Also resist for a moment …
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5 Moves To Raise your Marriage to New Heights Let’s say your marriage has gone from ‘bliss’ to ‘okay’ to ‘beyond stressed’. Maybe you’ve even had that conversation with your partner, where you’ve said, “I can’t do this anymore!” If this is you, then you’ll probably agree that in your relationship, you’re just surviving. In …
The Legacy of Saying Yes I surveyed the open, brightly lit gym, the white walls, and gleaming wood floors. Even though gymnastics wasn’t entirely new to me, I hadn’t stood on the bar until that moment. This was a new view—a scary one. My right arm outstretched behind my back and toes just visible as …
Trauma is a Trickster in Your Marriage In your marriage, have you ever wondered why?!? – why the overblown emotional reactions? One day, fifteen years into our marriage, we reached the tipping point. My husband, Carey, and I had endured years of conflict, now layered with ever-growing bitterness and contempt. On this particular day in …
Finding Your Way Out of Feeling Stuck in Your Marriage – Part 1 I’ve walked with people who were going through the agonizing search for their next steps while leaving their marriage, in my practice as a divorce attorney. While I was able to give people direction about their legal steps, all I could do …
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Step Away From Hopeless I slipped into the dark, packed-out room and sank into a chair in the back row. I was at a conference, about to hear from the wife of a successful leader. I was only there in body, not by desire. I had that sense of obligation (since I was young and …
