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5 Insidious Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Marriage

By Toni Nieuwhof | June 10, 2021

5 Insidious Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Marriage If you’re like most married people, you want your marriage to be great.  But if you’re like most married people, some of the ways you treat each other are not-so-great.  These pitfalls can creep in without you even noticing.[1]  That is, until now! Turning a fun …

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If you’re worried about your kids because of your marriage, here’s what to do next…

By Toni Nieuwhof | June 2, 2021

Worried About Your Kids Because of Your Marriage?  Here’s What To Do Next… “I had to leave. Things are so bad between us, and our kids have seen too much already.” “Our fighting is too toxic. We need to split for the sake of our kids.” “It’s terrible with us being under one roof. It’s …

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How to Fail at Changing Your Spouse’s Mind

By Toni Nieuwhof | May 20, 2021

How to Fail at Changing Your Spouse’s Mind Chances are if you’ve been married for some time, you’ve thought something like, “how can I change his (or her) mind?”.  You’ve tried being subtle.  You’ve tried to position them to hear it from someone else. At some point, you’ve probably tried arguing or the direct, ‘in …

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If a healthy relationship includes playfulness (and you’re like me…), how can you get it back?

By Toni Nieuwhof | May 7, 2021

If a healthy relationship includes playfulness (and you’re like me…), how can you get it back? Are you missing the sweet touch of play in your relationship? Perhaps your playfulness is like mine:  you’ll slip into the mood here and there, but most often you’re all too serious. Before the pandemic hit, our lifestyle was …

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Ask yourself these two questions if frustration has replaced emotional intimacy in your marriage

By Toni Nieuwhof | April 16, 2021

Ask yourself these two questions if frustration has replaced emotional intimacy in your marriage “Whatever I do, it’s never enough!” Maybe you can relate to this.  You’ve had a few issues in your marriage you can’t crack the code on.  She asks you to not be so messy, and you’ve responded.  Made some changes.  But …

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Why Waiting for Your Spouse to Make the First Move Could Be a Mistake

By Toni Nieuwhof | April 1, 2021

Why Waiting for Your Spouse to Make the First Move Could Be a Mistake   Emma’s marriage was suffering to the point where she was losing hope.  Even though she and her husband Kyle agreed that their future was at risk, they disagreed bitterly over what would make it better.  So, when Emma decided to …

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The Legacy of Saying Yes

By Toni Nieuwhof | March 19, 2021

The Legacy of Saying Yes I surveyed the open, brightly lit gym, the white walls, and gleaming wood floors. Even though gymnastics wasn’t entirely new to me, I hadn’t stood on the bar until that moment. This was a new view—a scary one. My right arm outstretched behind my back and toes just visible as …

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4 Critical Questions to Ask When You and Your Spouse Feel Like Roommates

By Toni Nieuwhof | March 5, 2021

4 Critical Questions to Ask When You and Your Spouse Feel Like Roommates You’re feeling half- numb as you walk into the kitchen after your night shift.  An unexpected emergency on your ward in the hospital and the adrenaline rush that went with it now subsiding, your body could melt onto the floor on the …

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Forgiveness May Be the Break You Need

By Toni Nieuwhof | February 26, 2021

Forgiveness May Be the Break You Need I wonder how you would describe the climate in your marriage these days.  Stormy? Maybe your argument a few days ago blows into today, and even if you manage to shutter it out now, it’s only a matter of time until it whips up again, perhaps with more …

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Build a Stronger Connection by Being Emotionally Safe for Your Spouse

By Toni Nieuwhof | February 19, 2021

Build a Stronger Connection by Being Emotionally Safe for Your Spouse Feeling frustrated with your spouse?  Basically, you want your marriage to work out.  But you’ve tried things to make it better, and now – well, maybe you’re more cynical than you’d like to admit. One of the problems? You just seem to keep tripping …

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