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Why Waiting for Your Spouse to Make the First Move Could Be a Mistake

By Toni Nieuwhof | April 1, 2021

Why Waiting for Your Spouse to Make the First Move Could Be a Mistake   Emma’s marriage was suffering to the point where she was losing hope.  Even though she and her husband Kyle agreed that their future was at risk, they disagreed bitterly over what would make it better.  So, when Emma decided to …

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The Legacy of Saying Yes

By Toni Nieuwhof | March 19, 2021

The Legacy of Saying Yes I surveyed the open, brightly lit gym, the white walls, and gleaming wood floors. Even though gymnastics wasn’t entirely new to me, I hadn’t stood on the bar until that moment. This was a new view—a scary one. My right arm outstretched behind my back and toes just visible as …

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4 Critical Questions to Ask When You and Your Spouse Feel Like Roommates

By Toni Nieuwhof | March 5, 2021

4 Critical Questions to Ask When You and Your Spouse Feel Like Roommates You’re feeling half- numb as you walk into the kitchen after your night shift.  An unexpected emergency on your ward in the hospital and the adrenaline rush that went with it now subsiding, your body could melt onto the floor on the …

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Forgiveness May Be the Break You Need

By Toni Nieuwhof | February 26, 2021

Forgiveness May Be the Break You Need I wonder how you would describe the climate in your marriage these days.  Stormy? Maybe your argument a few days ago blows into today, and even if you manage to shutter it out now, it’s only a matter of time until it whips up again, perhaps with more …

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Build a Stronger Connection by Being Emotionally Safe for Your Spouse

By Toni Nieuwhof | February 19, 2021

Build a Stronger Connection by Being Emotionally Safe for Your Spouse Feeling frustrated with your spouse?  Basically, you want your marriage to work out.  But you’ve tried things to make it better, and now – well, maybe you’re more cynical than you’d like to admit. One of the problems? You just seem to keep tripping …

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Trauma is a Trickster in Your Marriage

By Toni Nieuwhof | February 5, 2021

Trauma is a Trickster in Your Marriage In your marriage, have you ever wondered why?!? – why the overblown emotional reactions? One day, fifteen years into our marriage, we reached the tipping point. My husband, Carey, and I had endured years of conflict, now layered with ever-growing bitterness and contempt. On this particular day in …

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Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”: Your Finances

By Toni Nieuwhof | January 25, 2021

Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”:  Your Finances Do you wish you had more peace around money in your marriage? If so, maybe you’ll see something of yourselves in these scenarios… You seem to always be at odds with each other over your budget. ‘Going there’ always ends with an argument. One of you loves …

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When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low

By Toni Nieuwhof | January 8, 2021

When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low   How much of your personal story should you share in public or on social media? It’s a great question and a tough one. Some people wear their hearts on their sleeves, while others are stoic and rarely ever share what’s going on inside.  But, both …

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Me, You and Mental Health – Part 2

By Toni Nieuwhof | December 3, 2020

Mental Health and Marriage – Part 2 How Can I Be Okay When My Spouse Isn’t?   This article is Part 2 of a Series by Dr. Charity Byers.  For Part 1, click here In Part 1, I shared what it was like for my husband and I to deal with mental health issues in …

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Me, You and Mental Health – Part 1

By Dr. Charity Byers | November 24, 2020

Me, You, and Mental Health – Part 1 Navigating the Impacts of Mental Health Struggles on Marriages Dr. Charity Byers, Executive Director, Blessing Ranch Ministries   “In sickness and in health.” It’s a line so many of us repeat as we pledge our faithfulness and love for a lifetime. Most of us have no idea what …

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