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Trauma is a Trickster in Your Marriage

By Toni Nieuwhof | February 5, 2021

Trauma is a Trickster in Your Marriage In your marriage, have you ever wondered why?!? – why the overblown emotional reactions? One day, fifteen years into our marriage, we reached the tipping point. My husband, Carey, and I had endured years of conflict, now layered with ever-growing bitterness and contempt. On this particular day in …

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Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”: Your Finances

By Toni Nieuwhof | January 25, 2021

Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”:  Your Finances Do you wish you had more peace around money in your marriage? If so, maybe you’ll see something of yourselves in these scenarios… You seem to always be at odds with each other over your budget. ‘Going there’ always ends with an argument. One of you loves …

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When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low

By Toni Nieuwhof | January 8, 2021

When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low   How much of your personal story should you share in public or on social media? It’s a great question and a tough one. Some people wear their hearts on their sleeves, while others are stoic and rarely ever share what’s going on inside.  But, both …

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Me, You and Mental Health – Part 2

By Toni Nieuwhof | December 3, 2020

Mental Health and Marriage – Part 2 How Can I Be Okay When My Spouse Isn’t?   This article is Part 2 of a Series by Dr. Charity Byers.  For Part 1, click here In Part 1, I shared what it was like for my husband and I to deal with mental health issues in …

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Me, You and Mental Health – Part 1

By Dr. Charity Byers | November 24, 2020

Me, You, and Mental Health – Part 1 Navigating the Impacts of Mental Health Struggles on Marriages Dr. Charity Byers, Executive Director, Blessing Ranch Ministries   “In sickness and in health.” It’s a line so many of us repeat as we pledge our faithfulness and love for a lifetime. Most of us have no idea what …

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Finding Your Way Out of Feeling Stuck in Your Marriage – Part 2

By Toni Nieuwhof | November 18, 2020

Finding Your Way Out Of Feeling Stuck In Your Marriage – Part 2   If you’re unhappily married right now, you may be wondering – should I stay or should I go? If you’re like I was, you may be feeling stuck because neither option seems to fit with what you really want. I’m writing …

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Finding Your Way Out of Feeling Stuck in Your Marriage – Part 1

By Toni Nieuwhof | November 9, 2020

Finding Your Way Out of Feeling Stuck in Your Marriage – Part 1 I’ve walked with people who were going through the agonizing search for their next steps while leaving their marriage, in my practice as a divorce attorney.  While I was able to give people direction about their legal steps, all I could do …

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How Can You Be Happy in Your Relationship Despite Differing Expectations?

By Toni Nieuwhof | October 30, 2020

How Can You Be Happy in Your Relationship Despite Differing Expectations?  If you’re anything like my husband Carey and I, whatever it is that reveals the clashes in your expectations will catch you off-guard.  Like the time Carey casually mentioned to me, in the middle of a social gathering, that he was signing our son …

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Is Your Marriage Unhappy or Harmful?

By Toni Nieuwhof | October 27, 2020

Is Your Marriage Unhappy or Harmful? I have a passion for helping struggling couples. Why? Because Carey and I were there ourselves for years, but we’re not anymore. And, I’ve witnessed some struggling couples who reached the other side of divorce, only to discover disappointment. Our marriage is restored and has become, dare I say, …

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Step Away From Hopeless

By Toni Nieuwhof | October 16, 2020

Step Away From Hopeless I slipped into the dark, packed-out room and sank into a chair in the back row. I was at a conference, about to hear from the wife of a successful leader. I was only there in body, not by desire. I had that sense of obligation (since I was young and …

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