Communication

Are you tired of the conflict and looking for more peace and joy in your marriage?

Are you tired of the conflict and looking for more peace and joy in your marriage? Deep down in your heart of hearts, you probably don’t love a mess.  Even if you typically live with more mess than you’re naturally wired for. Perhaps like me, when you surface from whatever really captivates you, you don’t …

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Why debriefing a heated argument with your spouse is essential and how to do it

Why debriefing a heated argument with your spouse is essential and how to do it Perhaps heated arguments with your spouse leave a bad taste in your mouth.  Maybe not all the time, but sometimes.  You find your way through it and everyone survives, but beneath the surface there’s a part of what went down …

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5 Insidious Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Marriage

5 Insidious Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Marriage If you’re like most married people, you want your marriage to be great.  But if you’re like most married people, some of the ways you treat each other are not-so-great.  These pitfalls can creep in without you even noticing.[1]  That is, until now! Turning a fun …

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How to Fail at Changing Your Spouse’s Mind

How to Fail at Changing Your Spouse’s Mind Chances are if you’ve been married for some time, you’ve thought something like, “how can I change his (or her) mind?”.  You’ve tried being subtle.  You’ve tried to position them to hear it from someone else. At some point, you’ve probably tried arguing or the direct, ‘in …

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If a healthy relationship includes playfulness (and you’re like me…), how can you get it back?

If a healthy relationship includes playfulness (and you’re like me…), how can you get it back? Are you missing the sweet touch of play in your relationship? Perhaps your playfulness is like mine:  you’ll slip into the mood here and there, but most often you’re all too serious. Before the pandemic hit, our lifestyle was …

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4 Critical Questions to Ask When You and Your Spouse Feel Like Roommates

4 Critical Questions to Ask When You and Your Spouse Feel Like Roommates You’re feeling half- numb as you walk into the kitchen after your night shift.  An unexpected emergency on your ward in the hospital and the adrenaline rush that went with it now subsiding, your body could melt onto the floor on the …

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Build a Stronger Connection by Being Emotionally Safe for Your Spouse

Build a Stronger Connection by Being Emotionally Safe for Your Spouse Feeling frustrated with your spouse?  Basically, you want your marriage to work out.  But you’ve tried things to make it better, and now – well, maybe you’re more cynical than you’d like to admit. One of the problems? You just seem to keep tripping …

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Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”: Your Finances

Start Fighting for “We” Instead of “Me”:  Your Finances Do you wish you had more peace around money in your marriage? If so, maybe you’ll see something of yourselves in these scenarios… You seem to always be at odds with each other over your budget. ‘Going there’ always ends with an argument. One of you loves …

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When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low

When Emotional Pain is High, Keep Public Sharing Low   How much of your personal story should you share in public or on social media? It’s a great question and a tough one. Some people wear their hearts on their sleeves, while others are stoic and rarely ever share what’s going on inside.  But, both …

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