Find your next step towards a way better future

Hi, I'm Toni Nieuwhof. My husband Carey and I know what it’s like to go through tough seasons in marriage.  But now, years later, our marriage is thriving. As a former divorce attorney, I’ve walked with people through the journey of separating.

I promise there are steps you can take even today to start moving away from frustration and toward your better future. And, I would love to help you find your next one.

What's your next step?

Resources to help you start making real progress in your relationship.

"I can't do this anymore!"

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Get 10 practical ways to approach conflict, to help you make decisions together.

"We're just not connecting..."


Get 10 practical ways to approach conflict, to help you make decisions together.

"I didn't sign up for this!"


For practical help to find what you really want for the future of your marriage, order Before You Split.

I know what it’s like to feel stuck in your relationship.  If your heart wonders if your relationship is over but you’re just not sure, you’ve come to the right place.

My hope is that what I’ve learned will jump start your own journey of growth into your best version of you. And let’s be real - we’ll all be learning together as we go.

Some couples are at risk of splitting without clearly understanding why they’re leaving and what lies ahead. And after splitting, I’ve heard some people wonder whether it would have been easier to stay and work through the issues.

Why not give your future self the gift of your best shot at the relationship you’re in?


Find what you really want for the future of your marriage

Could a book really help you leave your unhappiness instead of your spouse? “Yes!”, say our early readers. Toni's book, Before You Split: Find What You Really Want for the Future of Your Marriage is available now on Amazon!

The Smart Family Podcast

Dr. Rob Meeder and I offer you high quality, practical advice to help you strengthen your relationship and boost your parenting to the next level. Join us for easy-to-apply expert guidance on family life.

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Dynamic insight and wisdom to help you grow personally and as a couple

My extensive experience as a lawyer, pharmacist, and church leader has given her unique and practical insight on how people grow, emotionally, personally and spiritually. I specialize in helping people leave their unhappiness behind, not their marriages.

Encouragement for your journey

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